The Language of Love

Goals for this Week’s Study:

  • Review Sunday Morning’s Message.
  • Help everyone learn their “love language” and communicate in others’ love language.
  • Help group members (especially new members) get to know one another.

Getting Started:

Open your group with prayer.

SHARE: If you know your love language share what it is. If you don’t, share something that you enjoy when other people (spouse, family, etc.) do it for you. [listen as people speak and help identify their love language]


The 5 Love Languages Test ONLINE -

The 5 Love Languages

1. Words of Affirmation

This language uses words to affirm, encourage, and compliment other people.

Proverbs 18:21 – the tongue can bring life or death.

2. Acts of Service

For people with this love language, actions speak louder than words.

1 John 3:18 – Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions.

3. Receiving Gifts

For some people, what makes them feel loved the most is to receive a gift.

Ephesians 5:25 – Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

4. Quality Time

People with this gift enjoy time spent with no distractions (tv, activities, etc.)

Mark 3:14 – He appointed twelve that they might be with him and that he might send them out to preach.

5. Physical Touch

Physical contact is key for people with this love language (Hugs, Cuddling, etc.)

Matthew 8:3 – Jesus reached out and touched him. “I am willing,” he said. “Be healed!” And instantly the leprosy disappeared.

Study Questions

  1. Pastor Daniel said: “Everyone communicates, but only a few connect.” What does this mean to you?
  2. What are some ways we communicate (maybe even without words) that send the wrong message?
  3. How can communicating in your spouse’s (or anyone else for that matter) love language improve your relationship?
  4. Pastor Daniel talked about how you grow what you sow. What is one thing you need to be intentional about sowing this week? (It can be within a relationship with people or even your relationship with Christ)

Final Thoughts:

  1. You are always communicating, whether you realize it or not.
  2. Just because you are communicating doesn’t mean you are connecting!
  3. Your tank is always full when you are connecting while communicating. If you aren’t full, you aren’t fully connecting!

CHALLENGE: Learn the love languages of those around you (spouse, kids, co-worker, etc.). For the next week, be intentionally focused on communicating through each of their top love languages and see how much of a difference it makes in those specific relationships. Share with your life group next week!

PRAY over your group!

Adam Eldridge