What If What I Want Isn't What God Wants?
Calling off a wedding four weeks before it happens isn’t usually what everyone wants. However, for me, it was what I needed.
What do you do with that? Knowing you want something, but knowing at that exact moment, it isn’t what God wants for you? I didn’t want to stop eating chocolate and ice cream at a girls’ night, but if I ever expected to sleep and face the scale in the morning, something had to give.
I think we all know the difference sometimes from what we want and what we need, but how often do we actually apply it? We are living in a world that says, “what you want, when you want it,” so the word “no” or “wait” is met with opposition. So again, what do we do when what we want isn’t what God wants?
We should definitely turn to scripture. Verses like Romans 8:28 and Jeremiah 29:11 remind us that God is always working things for our good and His purpose. That’s easy to see when things are going the way we wanted too, but not so easy when what we want isn’t happening.
God is always working things for our good and His purpose.
How can we trust that what God wants for us is what is best? God’s very essence is truth and goodness, which means, what He wants for us is the best for us. Beyond scripture, we have to remember God’s faithfulness to us in the past.
"If we are faithless, He remains faithful - for He cannot deny Himself." 2 Timothy 2:13
Have you gone through something and on the other side of things, you have seen how God has provided for you?
I didn’t want to attend Morehead State, but somehow I did and now I’m involved and working on staff for a church that I have the opportunity to help people take their next step towards Jesus. I didn’t want to call off my wedding, but now I see the growth in my own personal life. I see my ability to love myself better, as well as those around me. I see how Jesus took me where I was and loved me enough to not leave me there. He knew that in that moment, marriage wasn’t what I needed, even though it is what I wanted.
When we remind ourselves of God’s faithfulness, all the attention goes away from us and what we want. We know that everything we have or accomplished has come from His being faithful to us, nothing from our own doing. It allows us to be okay. It even allows us to let go of the idea of what we wanted and place it in the hands of Jesus trusting He will return to us something better.
We know that everything we have or accomplished has come from His being faithful to us, nothing from our own doing.
One verse I have always struggled to understand is:
“Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Psalm 27:4
When I first read that, I thought if I loved the Lord, then He will give me what I want. That’s backwards. The mindset should really be to place your desires in the Lord. Delight in what He wants to do for your life, and He will give you the desires of your heart, which are now His desires for you that are the best.
“Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us,” Ephesians 3:20
We are human, which means we really don’t know what is best for us apart from the guiding of Jesus. Wanting what God wants is meant to be a joy, because He is the author of joy and He invests that in you. In the midst of an internal struggle of wanting something that God doesn’t seem to want for you, remember, God wants to do infinitely more than you can even dream, which is even more than what you think you want so bad in this moment.