Discipline: The Toughest Word in the Dictionary

Parenting is tough!  It is one of the most important roles that you will ever play.  If you don’t teach your kids well and teach them some manners, in order to live in society, then you have ultimately failed. And the failure will haunt you for the rest of your life.  You only have one chance of getting parenting right and this scares us to death. Well, at least this is what most of us believe!

Breathe.

Yes, parenting is leading but we are all human and are born with a sinful nature. This is the reality for us and for our children. But still, God uses discipline to reveal our sin to us. On the other side, God shows us love by forgiving us. So why should we also not consider grace for them too? It is a tough balance but the point is: parenting is leading. Show your children Jesus both by extending grace and by disciplining them so that they learn the ways of God. God has grace and sin still requires punishment. How will our children understand their need for a Savior without understanding their need for help?


Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
— Proverbs 13:24

As a parent who has a child of each gender, I know that both are very different.  As one technique works for one, it doesn't work for the other.  My girl is very soft hearted and she is a pleaser, so usually giving a warning and letting her know the consequence will work. My son, although, is not the people pleaser and we will usually have to follow-through. Discipline is important to follow through, because if you do not punish a child when they do something wrong, they will not learn what is right.  

Finding a discipline technique is hard to decide. I had many parents say that spanking doesn’t work, and others to say it does. But the fact of the matter is, choose what works best to teach your child. Discipline techniques are not a one size fits all. God has created every single one of us to be unique and that means that each of our personalities and the way we learn is different too. So why should we think that discipline techniques work the same with every child, as well?

As parents, we are our kid’s teachers!  If we are impatient and not quick to forgive, what are we showing their future spouse or grandkids? How we act can change the future of not only our kids today but also those generations to come. Parenting is leading. So hold your tongue and actions, and ask yourself, “What would a great parent do?”


What would a great parent do?

Every day is a learning experience, so don’t beat yourself up. Be a great leader by setting rules and showing the importance of them by sticking with them. We always tell kids that practice makes perfect, but the same is for parents.

Vanessa Frazier