Are My Desires Bad?
Desire is a weird word.
You either love it or you hate it.
If you love it, it’s a word that seems a lot like passion. It’s bright, it's red, and something that swells up inside and causes you to move. If you hate it, it’s like the word moist. It’s gross, you don’t get it and no one likes to say it. If you’re like me, you’re already making a sour face just reading “moist.” That’s the same face we can make towards desires.
Everyone has them.
Some desires we hate and some we love, but they’re always there.
One verse that I love about this schizophrenic word, is Psalm 37:4, "Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” If you’re not careful you can read this, "Be happy with God and he’ll grant you your wishes". A more accurate reading is, "Make Jesus the desire of your heart and He’ll give you, your hearts desires." Still there is something cloudy about desires. Are they good? Bad? Where do they come from?
What if I told you that desires, in and of themselves, were neither good, nor bad. A healthy or unhealthy desire is dependent upon what the desire is placed on. A desire, is "a want” or "a craving." It is started by a thought or a feeling, walked out, and placed upon a person or thing.
I like to use this analogy: Imagine there are two cliffs. They are facing each other, one cliff on the left and one on the right. The cliff on the left is thought and feelings and the cliff on the right is person and things. The bridge that connects thoughts and feelings to person and things is desire. For example, my desire to be in a relationship can be placed on a friend or even a random person. That feeling of attraction, walked out through a bridge of relationship is placed on a person.
Desire is a bridge.
Desire, in and of itself is neither bad nor good, it is neutral. I’ll say it again, all desire, in and of itself, is completely neutral. Sexual desire, in and of itself is neutral, a desire to eat in and of itself is neutral. What makes it good or bad is the person or thing in which it is connected to.
Every desire starts with a thought or feeling and is connected to a person or thing. What it is placed on determines if the desire you’re walking out is healthy or unhealthy. What or who are you placing your desires on? Are you walking out your desires in the way God calls you to? Maybe there are some desires that you need to not walk out right now because God has not given you the object of that desire. If that is you, I would challenge you practice Psalm 37:4. Make Jesus the desire of your heart, cling onto Him above all else, and trust Him that He will provide to you the object of your desire. God is a good God. He loves you and will take care of you.