The Art of Breaking Up

If you’ve lived long enough to date, you’ve lived long enough to break up. Today’s dating world is a constant cycle of first date to last time we ever speak to that person for the remainder of our entire life span on planet earth. (sarcasm intended there) When we’re all honest with ourselves, we know that this is somewhat true. Breaking up is weird, it’s messy, and there just doesn’t seem to be a good way to do it. I do believe, however, that we give break ups more power than they’re good for, and that there’s a better way to break up in our dating relationships.

@@Breaking up doesn’t mean you failed.@@ 

I know it’s hard to see it this way, but a break up doesn’t mean that relationship was a failure. We think that if we don’t marry him or her we did something wrong. We failed the relationship test and some how failed the class of finding a companion in life. This way of thinking just isn’t correct. Each relationship (and in turn, each break-up) should teach you something about the marriage you want and the person you are becoming. If you approach each break-up with thankfulness for what God has revealed to you and taught you, it makes it much easier to see the good in an uncomfortable situation. Romans 8:28 says:

"And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” 

This verse doesn’t mean that all things that happen to us are going to be good, but that no matter the situation, God can work good from it. Whatever the outcome of your dating relationship, good can come from it if God is involved in it. If you are a follower of Jesus, your dating life doesn’t have to look like everyone else's and shouldn’t look like everyone else’s. @@The lifestyle you claim should match the dating life you live.@@ It amazes me how the people who claim to have the love and grace of God, break up just as hateful and angry as everyone else. When you begin to see the how God can use your broken relationship, it changes the way you handle them. Learn to let God work the good out of the broken things in your life, and trust He knows whats best for you. It’s much easier to let go of them when you're holding on to Him. 

Trevor Stone